The right to free speech (if you live in a country that allows you that) means the government won’t put you in jail for what you’re saying. It doesn’t protect you from other people telling you to shut the fuck up.
PARDON ME WHILE I FORWARD THIS MESSAGE TO EVERYONE EVER.
”She stands out on the red carpet because she does not smile broadly or pose; she usually looks slightly uncomfortable. Of her red-carpet experience,Stewart said:
People say that I’m miserable all the time. It’s not that I’m miserable, it’s just that somebody’s yelling at me…I literally, sometimes, have to keep myself from crying…It’s a physical reaction to the energy that’s thrown at you.”
“Stewart is often a target of a specific kind of body policing: the “smile, baby” requirement. When she appears on the red carpet and does not assure us with her teeth that she is simply thrilled to be reduced to a presence, a dress, a posture, she is often the target of harassment for her expression. There is an expectation of women in general and famous woman in particular to always assure the onlooker that they are happy to be looked upon through smiling, and Stewart rejects this.”
“Women are expected to be nice and sweet, to make other people feel comfortable. A woman who says ‘hey, I think there’s a problem here’ is being ‘negative.’ A woman who doesn’t smile while she’s being harassed is ‘humourless.’ A woman who prefers to stay focused on tasks is a ‘cold bitch.’ Significant gendering is involved here; women have an obligation to look and act a certain way and when they don’t, they need to be hassled until they do.”
It probably says something unpleasant about me to admit that I did not expect that kind of insight out of Kristen Stewart. But, if nothing else, I try to admit when I’m wrong.
You tell ‘em, girl. And you smile when you damn well want to smile.
1. There are many, many wonderful women on YouTube who have broad and growing audiences. Here is a long but still incomplete list. (I’d add Grace Helbig, Hannah Hart, Natalie Tran, and Mamrie Hart, but there are lots.)
2. When women start to build an audience on YouTube, they are far, far more likely than men to be subjected to threats, harassment intimidation, and abuse. This has driven many women content creators whose work I love—especially LGBT women and/or women of color—away from YouTube. As a successful female YouTube partner said to me today, “Every time someone tweets a video of mine, I’m simultaneously grateful and really anxious, because I’m afraid of threats.” That’s a barrier to growing your audience, and it’s one created entirely by patriarchy.
3. Claims that the Top 500 Most Viewed YouTubers are >90% male simply because guys work harder at YouTube or make better videos are just blatantly ridiculous. Like, that’s just not a well reasoned conclusion.